A few days ago, many American high school kids went to prom. Tayja Jones, a grade 11 Pottsgrove High School student was decked out in a black A-line dress with multi-colored sequins. She had her hair curled, a corsage on her wrist and a big smile to match. She claimed to have an amazing night.
But after sharing pictures of the evening on Facebook she woke up to discover that she had become the butt of an ugly internet joke.
"There were just like so many rude remarks and negative comments about how I looked. People I didn't know just said 'that dress is not for her,' she looks like a fat something," Tayja told Fox 29.
"It was just really hurtful because I was so confident the day before and it just changed my view of myself."
However, she should not be naive. If she wished to live a life free of criticism, its best to be as private as possible.
Online bullying is the easiest of all to avoid. She should share her pics, video's and thoughts with her close friends only if she does not want anybody putting her feelings down.
Sharing things with the general population opens anybody up to criticism and ridicule, including Tayja. There is no exception. That is how things work. People have opinions and right or wrong, they are allowed to state those opinions.
If Tayja post things looking for approval or support, she should expect getting criticized instead. It's her choice.
It is unfortunate that people felt the need to make fun of her, as there is really no need for that and it doesn't really benefit anyone. However, she does seem to need a reality check into the dangers of being as massively obese as she is.
She says she is healthy, but she's in Grade 11 and has no concept of how this will change as her body begins to break down under the strain.
Telling her she looks beautiful and there's nothing wrong with her weight is plainly dishonest. Sometimes people need a reality check to take a real assessment of their situation and change.
Her friends may not tell her she looks awful, that would be cruel, unnecessary and not helpful. However,some people enjoy behaving that way from behind the protection of a keyboard, so its a bit naive to think that she will not receive any criticism or ridicule when she posted pics like that.
It is the way humans behave and have always behaved (at least a significant portion of them) so she should not be too shocked or upset when it happens to her. The only remedy is to grow a thick skin or stay of the internet.
But after sharing pictures of the evening on Facebook she woke up to discover that she had become the butt of an ugly internet joke.
"There were just like so many rude remarks and negative comments about how I looked. People I didn't know just said 'that dress is not for her,' she looks like a fat something," Tayja told Fox 29.
"It was just really hurtful because I was so confident the day before and it just changed my view of myself."
However, she should not be naive. If she wished to live a life free of criticism, its best to be as private as possible.
Online bullying is the easiest of all to avoid. She should share her pics, video's and thoughts with her close friends only if she does not want anybody putting her feelings down.
Sharing things with the general population opens anybody up to criticism and ridicule, including Tayja. There is no exception. That is how things work. People have opinions and right or wrong, they are allowed to state those opinions.
If Tayja post things looking for approval or support, she should expect getting criticized instead. It's her choice.
It is unfortunate that people felt the need to make fun of her, as there is really no need for that and it doesn't really benefit anyone. However, she does seem to need a reality check into the dangers of being as massively obese as she is.
She says she is healthy, but she's in Grade 11 and has no concept of how this will change as her body begins to break down under the strain.
Telling her she looks beautiful and there's nothing wrong with her weight is plainly dishonest. Sometimes people need a reality check to take a real assessment of their situation and change.
Her friends may not tell her she looks awful, that would be cruel, unnecessary and not helpful. However,some people enjoy behaving that way from behind the protection of a keyboard, so its a bit naive to think that she will not receive any criticism or ridicule when she posted pics like that.
It is the way humans behave and have always behaved (at least a significant portion of them) so she should not be too shocked or upset when it happens to her. The only remedy is to grow a thick skin or stay of the internet.
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